C’est Cupid Ou C’est La Vie?
By Krewe de Becks.
February 11, 2010
While enthusiastically watching the SAINTS win the Super Bowl, I got to see Google’s appallingly romantic ["Parisian Love"] commercial. ) To be honest, it made me want to shriek out loud with excitement, like a Teenager watching Twilight, and get up and go hug someone! It was very simple, yet it tracked the kind of love story even I have sometimes dreamt of. In the commercial the Google search engine took us through this guy’s relationship development in Paris. I’ll admit I felt some sort of nostalgic excitement when I saw it, since Paris is my favorite city in the world. I thought about the concept of the “ideal/perfect” romance, and my relationship expectations. Interestingly enough, I’ve come across a couple of articles this week that have given a twist to my thoughts about the “dating business” and relationships. On one hand Juan Bobo’s firing of Cupid, and on the other hand an interesting article my friend Cele came across. (http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/dating-advice-7-mistakes-single-women-make-580573/) You can’t completely compare both vis-à-vis, but I’ll share how both made a little sense to someone like me (a hopeful romantic in denial).
Let’s start with Juan Bobo’s article.
Firing Cupid and sharing his personal story (in Paris!) reminds us that some relationships, as romantic as they might be, may or may not work out in the end. Like I stated before, accepting this is a very painful ordeal. Some relationships break our hearts, and others even break our hope. In his article he asks: “What is the jackpot?” and tells the story of the relationship that made him believe that he had hit the love “Jackpot”. After reading it, and enjoying his last points, I can’t help to disagree a bit and think that this is not all Cupid’s fault. Then I read the article Cele sent me and it brought in a new perspective about how we dive into relationships.
The article talks about 7 dating mistakes women make, which I have a couple of general critiques about and discuss later. The message I got from it is that people are dating the “wrong way”, and won’t find a good person to settle down with until their mentality is corrected. So then I wondered: Is it really Cupid’s fault… or is it just life? I do believe that sometimes our construct of what a romantic relationship should be does carry a strong element of fantasy from the fairy tales we are fed as children (like little girls in love with “Prince Charming” who carry that to adulthood), and it makes it almost impossible to find that “perfect partner” because in reality this person doesn’t exist! (Humans are not perfect) Juan Bobo’s article is a great example of how that “Fairy Tale” romance suddenly gets a gloomier end. What I do agree with Cele’s article is that, in the search for this “perfect partner”, we often miss out on a better match for us. Life brings us certain relationships that, although were not meant to last, do teach us a more realistic side of what a romantic relationship truly entails.
Those “failed” relationships become our life lesson if we know how to use the experience wisely. Like my former clinical supervisor always told me: “Every experience in life can become a learning moment”. So I think that maybe if we let go a bit more of those old fairy tale relationship standards, if we let go of “Prince Charming” and the fairy tale love story, we can then appreciate someone who, although is not overall perfect, could be just perfect for us. That way we could allow ourselves to have our own love story… one that is unique. *Note: A.D.D. levels are high today since Jean V. used ALL the Ritalin for his article. )
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